My Secret Behind Finding Love

May 1, 2018 | Rocking the Single Life


In early February of this year (2018), I was ghosted by a guy after a great first date. “Ghosted” meaning he withdrew contact from me without warning following our date. It was brutal.

I was all too familiar with how it felt to be disregarded like that; men consistently treated me poorly in my dating life.

As I reflected on being ghosted, I realized I was the common thread in my dating life. I was the person who kept getting hurt and thrown around. It was me! I was motivated more than ever to turn things around.

I put my metaphorical work boots on. If my soul was a garden, then my job was to find the weeds and pull them out. For good.

I did find weeds. More than anything, I was holding a ton of resentment. Not just toward past dates and relationships but toward my future partner!

No wonder why I was attracting weird crap into my dating life, right?

The following three weeks, I did a lot of mindset and forgiveness work. I had realization after realization. It felt like the heavens were opening!

Soon enough, I was back in the dating world. The first person I talked to wasn’t for me. He had difficulty accepting certain parts of my personality and life, and I broke it off. The day I told him I was no longer interested in speaking with him, I felt something coming into my world intuitively.

Something was coming in.

Immediately after I broke it off with him, a peace came over me that I was ready; I had created the space to meet my partner, with the side note to work diligently to maintain that space.

Not even two months later, there he was. The love of my life, the best thing that has ever happened to me.

I didn’t know how amazing he would be when he messaged me on OkCupid. This is SUPER important to note: I gave him the benefit of the doubt about some things in his profile, and he did the same for me. It turns out we misinterpreted or misunderstood.

Another important thing to note in this story is the reason I broke it off with the first guy I dated after doing mindset work – because he didn’t accept me.

On the first date with my love, he asked what I was looking for in a partner. One of the first things I said was someone who accepts me for who I am.

It turns out this is a huge component of finding true love – accepting one another.

I’ll write more on that later. Mostly, I wrote this blog post to emphasize that I didn’t meet my partner by chance. It was definitely in Divine Timing, but I worked hard on myself to find him. And I am so thankful I did.

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